LOOKING after two young children is hard enough without 60 head of dairy cows moaning outside for their milk to be released.
Cows with udders full of milk won't give you time to grieve, so when her husband died leaving her with two daughters aged seven and three years, Melba Foxover got on with work.
"I admire my mum, as she's gone without so much to provide me with what I have needed," said her oldest daughter Ruby Davis, now 50 years.
"She had to run a household, a dairy and she even cleaned for her brothers, who would bring washing and mending around for her," Mrs Davis said.
To celebrate her mother's 86th birthday and as an early Mothers' Day occasion, Mrs Davis took her mother and stepfather Keith Foxover to lunch at the Clocktower Hotel yesterday.
"She's my inspiration," Mrs Davis said and the sentiment was returned.
"This one (Ruby Davis) was my right hand when she was young and I used to do dairying in Ulmarra," Mrs Foxover said.
"It was hard work and I had the potties (potty calves) to feed and the pigs as well," she said.
Retired from farming she misses talking to her cows.
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