When Gary Jubelin needed to get away from it all he turned to combat sports and then meditation, but his mentor ended up not being who he professed to be.
When Gary Jubelin needed to get away from it all he turned to combat sports and then meditation, but his mentor ended up not being who he professed to be.

‘I felt betrayed’: The mentor who failed Jubelin

When he wasn't confronting the worst of humanity at work, all Gary Jubelin wanted was for someone to beat him up.

From his early days in the police, the then young Detective - working his way up from the Armed Holdup squad to Gangs and then Homicide - needed an outlet where he wasn't required to make any decisions.

Martial arts were the solution: first kickboxing, then Kung fu, then a form of moving meditation called qigong, which along with yoga has become a lifelong passion.

Gary Jubelin escaped through meditation. Source: Supplied
Gary Jubelin escaped through meditation. Source: Supplied

 

"Qigong's the opposite of the police force's tough-guy, don't-talk-about-your-feelings attitude. If I were to tell them what I'm doing in those early-morning classes, the other cops will think I'm weird. They might wonder if they can trust me," Jubelin writes.

He connected deeply with a young qigong master, Ben (not his real name), who became a close friend and confidant.

 

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"(Ben) talks about how a warrior must have honour, and how honour is founded on justice and on your obligation to others.

Quoting Confucius, he tells me, 'To see what is right and not to do it is want of courage.' After training, the two of us sit cross-legged on the floor and talk, sometimes for hours," Jubelin writes.

 

Gary Jubelin also boxes to keep himself fit.
Gary Jubelin also boxes to keep himself fit.

 

 

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But in one of the darkest periods of his life, as his second marriage was becoming strained and work was ever more pressured, Jubelin discovered Ben was not all he seemed.

A fellow police officer approached Jubelin, concerned his teenage daughter was becoming too close to Ben, who was teaching her martial arts.

 

I Catch Killers by Gary Jubelin is out on August 20.
I Catch Killers by Gary Jubelin is out on August 20.

 

"I also watch the cop's daughter and see the way she looks at Ben, and the way he acts with her in training. I see how they spend so much time together, despite the difference in their ages. I start to feel uncomfortable. I call Ben out and he begins to protest, saying, 'Oh, but …' "There's no f … buts," I tell him.

"It's like me getting into a relationship with a victim.

"I tell him I don't want to see him or to speak to him. It's a betrayal. It's a betrayal of me also, because I believed him. I walk out of Ben's gym and don't go back. I've lost my faith."

Jo in Gary and Claire Harvey for an exclusive live event online at 6:30pm AEST on Wednesday, August 19 at True Crime Australia on Facebook.

 

Originally published as 'I felt betrayed': The mentor who failed Jubelin



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