A scene from the 50 Shades of Grey movie trailer.
A scene from the 50 Shades of Grey movie trailer.

Bondage mistress urges newbies to go slow


LETTER TO THE EDITOR

With 50 Shades of Grey about to be unleashed I am somewhat concerned.

There are possibilities of potential 'Masters' overstepping their new found dominating roll with their sexual partners.

The roll of a Master or a Mistress is dominating, but it is also there to ensure the safety and wellbeing of their submissives is maintained.

Trust is a major component that must be earned within the BDSM partnership.

As a professional Mistress, time must be taken to ensure that prospective submissive clients trust me, and also believe that I will follow the safe words that I have in place.

Boundaries will be pushed, but this is something that is already discussed, and consented.

It troubles me that with the movie about to show just one style of the BDSM lifestyle, that it may be done without full consent and boundaries could be pushed too far.

For those who may be tempted to dabble in the kink lifestyle, it would be suggested that all participants should have a clear understanding of what is to be involved, all boundaries and limits and what safe words will be used.

Start slow and gradually move forward in the direction that excites you both.

BDSM is a very broad area that can mean one thing to one person and an entirely different thing to another. Everyone involved needs to enjoy the art of BDSM to see it developing into their lifestyle.

Many of those in the BDSM lifestyle do not link it to a sexual act. Many clients do not want a sexual release and it is about domination versus submission and often humiliation rather than a physically typically sexual act.

Unlike the movie, most clients who want to be submissive have highly stressful occupations such as doctors and lawyers and use it as a time to give themselves total release of their commitments.

They want to become completely submissive and be told exactly what to do rather than delegating. Clients will wear as I demand while they mow my yard or clean my home.

Some want to be in a chastity device so I am in control of their sexual release.

Some want to hear how women are superior to men.

This is just the tip of the iceberg.

The various kink filled adventures are so varied and can travel down many different paths.

So when you are about to embark on the kinky side of life, please ensure all parties are fully aware and have consented and abide by the boundaries and limits.

A written contract between those involved will show documented pathways of your consensual activities you will all enjoy.

Stay safe and have fun!

Mistress Tasha 



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