While history has seen us become obsessed with our communication devices, none of them had the power of today’s smartphones that do it all.
While history has seen us become obsessed with our communication devices, none of them had the power of today’s smartphones that do it all. News Corp Australia

Why do some people grab their phone during sex?

ONE in 10 Aussies say they sometimes grab for their smartphone during sex to pass the time. One in 10 Aussies are clearly doing sex wrong.

In this era of smartphone obsession, it's common for people to have a close relationship with their favourite digital device.

I'm as guilty of smartphone love as the next man... and probably more so. If I don't have my phone with me, I start to sweat. If my iPhone battery gets below 90 per cent, I start to feel queasy. It's the first thing I grab in the morning and the last thing I touch at night.

But sometimes you have to draw a line - and that line should be while you still have your clothes on.

Last week, a national survey found one in 10 Aussies are so obsessed with their smartphone and the notifications it delivers that they admit to grabbing it in distraction during an intimate moment with their partner.

It might seem like shocking news but really it's not a surprise. It's at least the third national survey that has found the same thing and backs up international research that shows up to 15 per cent of people say they have interrupted sex to answer a phone call.

Checking Twitter or whatever while you're otherwise engaged in an intimate moment is an extreme but it's a sign of the overall problem. Nearly half of Australian women say their partner is sometimes more interested in their smartphone than them.

The problem, at least according to social researcher Mark McCrindle, is that we're still coming to terms with the all-in-one communications device that we've had in our pocket for the past 10 years.

While we've been obsessed with our communication devices in the past, none of them had the power of the smartphone that does it all.

People take their iPhones into the toilet all the time. Back in the 90s, nobody ever took a fax into the loo, unless they were looking for a new use for that annoying thermal paper.

One of the troubles with the smartphone is that it blurs the line between work and play. Sure, we check it all the time to see if it's our turn in Words With Friends but we're also checking it all the time in case we've received an after-hours work email that needs attention before we're back in the office.

The question we should be asking ourselves is how long could we go without our smartphone. And the answer is from sundown to sundown on Friday March 3 to Saturday March 4 with National Day of Unplugging.

The event, in its eighth year, is inspired by the Jewish tradition of turning off electronics and abstaining from work for one day a week.

Tanya Schevitz, a spokesman for the unplugging event, says the aim is to pause from being constantly connected to take stock of our digital consumption.

While the event is American based, there are groups of Australians who are on-board and Schevitz says Australia was in the top five countries visiting the NDU website.

"The biggest benefit people find when they unplug is that they realise how much they are missing out on by having their faces buried in their phones constantly," Schevitz says.

"They realise that they can connect with those around them much better when they are unplugged, that they make new friends, that they can relax and focus on something.

"And people also realise that there are many things they like to do when they put down their phones that they have stopped doing because the technology sucks up so much time."

Schevitz has convinced me.

I'm addicted to my phone but, for one day, I will be putting it away.

And I'll be urging everyone, especially that 10 per cent of phone addicts who want a hashtag to go with their sex acts, to do the same.

Originally published as Why one in 10 Aussies are doing sex wrong

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